First, a little background. HJ came home at 28 months. For at least part of her time in China, she was in a foster home. We believe she went there shortly after arriving at the SWI at one day old and was there until about six weeks before adoption.
About a year after we brought her home, we were able to make contact with her foster family. We have a few photos of the family (an older couple and their adult children), their home, and the surrounding area. These photos are in the photo album with all of the other photos from our trip to China to adopt HJ.
For the last few weeks, HJ has been talking about missing her China Mom. This seems to happen most frequently at bath time. I'm not sure why this is a trigger as she didn't have tub baths in China but rather had sponge baths. It has also happened once or twice recently when she has been disciplined for something.
We try our best to acknowledge her feelings but to also re-affirm the fact that we are her forever parents. We do at times talk about her three moms: her tummy mommy, her China mommy, and her forever mommy. She has not started asking any questions, but I imagine that the adoption of "Paul" is going to raise a number of interesting issues for HJ. I guess only time will tell how this all works out.
The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field. Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it. Matthew 13:44-46
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