HJ finally popped "the question" last night. No, not the one about getting married. She asked, "Why didn't my tummy mommy keep me?" Fortunately, I knew this was probably coming and had read a number of blogs about how people had handled this question.
I told her that for some unknown reason, her tummy mommy couldn't take care of her. So she took HJ to a place where she knew someone would take care of her. That place asked HJ's China mommy to take care of her until her forever family could come and get her. That simple explanation seemed to be enough for her for now.
It was so precious to sit there in bed with her while explaining this. She ended up curling up in my lap and SG sat next to us and just rubbed HJs arm to try and comfort her. HJ then asked me to sleep with her. I told her I would lay with her until she fell asleep. It only took about 10 min and she was resting peacefully.
I'm sure this is just the first time I'll get this question. As she asks more, I'll offer more information. For now, all is well.
The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field. Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it. Matthew 13:44-46
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Jadyn has asked me who her "real" mom is. (that hurt). I explained that I am her real mom. Then she rephrased the question to "Who is my birth mom". A few weeks later as she was walking to school with Bill, she asked "Do I have a dad in China". She's one smart cookie. We were not expecting these questions so soon. She has shed many tears over her birth parents. She wants to know who they are. She also misses her foster mom a lot. It's hard to see her grieve. She's been home 4 1/2 years and still has times of grief. Abby on the other hand has not asked any questions and really does not seem to care.
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