We were out walking last night and ran into one of our neighbors. She asked us how things were going with "our project". I knew exactly what she meant, but I responded, "Oh, you mean our adoption?" and then gave her the short rundown on our horrendous wait.
The interesting thing - she was adopted - from Korea as a 4 yr old. We have discussed her adoption off and on ever since she found out we are adopting DJ. She repeatedly refers to "the man that adopted me" and not "my father" or "my dad". She never mentions her adoptive mother - though it is clear from our conversations that she has one. It has also become obvious from our conversations that she is an "angry, adult adoptee" - though her tone/attitude don't particularly reflect it - just her words. I gathered from her question ("our project") that this is most likely how she feels about her adoption. She certainly has a right to her feelings, but I am sad that this is how she feels about what happened to her.
The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field. Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it. Matthew 13:44-46
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Did you see my post about the drought?
I mentioned getting an email of "support" from someone who referred to the adoption of our boys as a "God-sized project".
*fuming*
This person who said this is a church leader! It told me a lot about how she felt about our adoptions. Not surprising based on other things she has said but still made me upset nonetheless. How can people refer to children as a "project"?
As for your neighbor, how sad truly. Truly sad for her and her family.
I just don't understand the anger, but then again I certainly don't have all of the answers in that dept. right now with one of ours.
HUGS to you and Happy Thanksgiving!
Still praying for you as you wait and the pain it causes in the depths, Leslie
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