If you've read my blog for long, you know that we waited an unusually long time (78 days) for our LOA for our son. At the time, I had no idea why our wait was nearly double of those around us.
Unfortunately, about a week ago, we found out why.
We received our LOA on Wed 11/24. Then on Tue 11/30, we received an update on our son. Unfortunately, it was in Chinese and our agency hadn't had time to translate it. On Wed, Small World called CP and CP then called me. By then, I had received the English translation of the document in my e-mail. It was not good.
Our son had been admitted to the hospital in early October and had received two additional diagnoses. We were devastated. Some of the information was unclear so our agency began the process of asking for clarification. In the meantime, we began researching these additional SNs to learn more about them including treatment options. After much prayer and discussion, CP and I have determined that we are not the best family to meet this child's needs.
We told our kids last night - the girls took it in stride (not sure they REALLY understand), the boys took it hard. HJ asked if we could adopt a girl instead! JA asked if we could adopt another boy with the same main SN as DJ. SG asked some great questions. AT just cried. I think it helped to end our evening by decorating our Christmas tree.
We may not be able to add DJ to our family, but he will always be in our hearts. We pray that another family will step forward to bring him home - and we hope to know who they are.
We notified our agency and USCIS (since we had already sent in our I-800 paperwork). For now, we wait.
We know that God has called us to older child adoption. We just need to let God help us find our new son.
The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field. Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it. Matthew 13:44-46
9 comments:
I'm so sorry to read this. I pray for peace for your entire family!
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that! What a horribly difficult decision. I'm in this wait with you and I know that there's already such an attachment before you even meet. I'm so sorry this happened and that this information wasn't available before.
Love to you and your family.
Oh Donna,
I know you must be devastated. This had to be a very difficult decision. Praying God gives you Peace beyond understanding. AND gives you the right child. AND gives this child the right family.
Praying for you!
I can't even find the words to write....just that my heart is aching for you and your family....we will be lifting you up in prayer and ask for peace and some sort of understanding...and that He will show you the face of your son will be shown to you quickly!
Hugs!!
Mary and Chad Hecky
I can't even find the right words to say....but I am so sorry. We will be lifting your family up in prayer, the little boy that will forever be in your heart, and the son that you will one day bring home to your family.
Hugs!
Chad and Mary Hecky
Praying the Lord's tender peace and grace over your family. HUGs to all of you!!
Oh I'm so sorry! I know how you feel right now and its awful! We went to meet a child in Ukraine a few weeks ago and found out additional diagonis at the orphanage and we had to make the decision that we just couldn't adopt her. It was heartwrenching! God still holds you in the palm of His hand and he works all things together for good :) I pray you'll see it this side of heaven but know that even if you don't you will eventually know why this happened and it was still all a part of God's plan.
((Hugs))
I am heartbroken for you. I just don't have the words.... Please know we will be praying for you all.
Gosh I am so sorry, I pray that you are at peace now. The Lord has a plan for you and your family. I pray as you seek his face this Christmas that he will bless you above and beyond you could ever imagine! God Bless you! Terry
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